(08-22-2023, 05:05 AM)Cavebear Wrote:(08-17-2023, 01:20 AM)pattylt Wrote: I feel seen…
There is no way a guy can post about this and come out alive... But I'm stupid and will take a try at it. And this isn't easy to say.
In the 90s, a women I was corresponding with ("lonely atheists") asked if she could stay at my house while she attended a NOW conference. I had a geust room at the time, so I said "sure". Well she was pretty weird, but I wanted to meet her if she was coming to town anyway. It turned out she was not attending the NOW conference.
I said "weird". She slipped into my bed wearing nearly nothing, but did not want any contact. OK. She slept sitting up, would only eat cereal, and would not step outside. On the 3rd day, I accidentally used the wrong name. She blubbered like a waterfall for an hour. OK, yeah, I slipped on the name (and I didn't even know a woman by that name). A complete mis-speak. It took another hour to calm her down enough to even find out what I had said wrong.
On day 5 I asked her to just leave. Later, I discovered I was missing a tennis trophy and several books. Months later, she sent me a picture of a house she had bought. It looked very much like mine. Damn near identical. I assume it was deliberate. Then she called me on my birthday after no contact for a year. I hung up after hearing crying.
I also stopped writing to the other 2 "lonely atheist" women. One had admitted that she was a cat-worshiper (and she meant that literally) and her parents thought her only hope of marriage was to an atheist. And she killed 2 cats because "they didn't get along". They other admitted that she just "wanted a husband" and didn't really care who. I called on the phone to explain to both. And THEY went through the whole blubbering tearful thing.
I've never seen a guy cry in my life. But women do. Copiously. For effect. Maniputively. Yes, I'm angry about it. I've experienced it. It makes me feel bad that someone is upset enough to cry so much. But it is also a bit of a shock when they stop suddenly after gettin to some goal.
Putting on my flak jacket...
No recriminations from me. Yes, many women cry at the drop of a hat and some use it to be manipulative. I used to cry easily and for many reasons that others wouldn’t understand. After menopause, it became much rarer. I’m sure there’s a hormonal reason and also a probable evolutionary cause. I’m very happy that I don’t cry much anymore post menopause. I hated it. I also couldn’t stop it easily. While some men go into testosterone rages, some women go into crying jags.
