(03-20-2019, 02:59 PM)Mathilda Wrote: Marriage is about supporting one another so that you are both stronger together than alone. Together you can make this happen.
This. Marriage is about people having each other's backs. People supporting each other's endeavors, whatever they may be and however it all turns out. Marriage itself is about two adults, family is about children. There are many ways to add children to form a family.
Inability to bear children does not define your value as a wife and a woman. Women are not cattle. The ability to understand and support your husband in his endeavors makes you a good wife, and his ability to understand you and support your endeavors makes him a good husband. You are partners in life and help each other to make it pleasant and successful for each other.
Unless death do you part, a good marriage lasts a life time. Children take up but a small portion of your life - roughly 20 years out of 80. A marriage may last 60 years out of 80.
When you put yourself down because you have not had luck bearing children, it's your hormones talking, not your head. Remember that hormones skew your view - they are designed to. They make sure you are totally preoccupied with the life you are carrying, so it is well protected. Your husband does not have these same hormones, so you can be pretty sure that he views things differently.